We love it when clients take care of themselves. When they eat all the good food. When they do their research, know what they want and how to stand up for themselves. They come in holding a tumbler of water, and finish it before the appointment is up. Taking care of yourself isn’t only about drinking water though, or eating good food and begging your hubby for a foot massage. How is your state of mind? Have you had any past traumas that you need to work through? Do you fully trust in the Lord? Are you anxious, overcome with worry? What about love? Do you love yourself when you look in the mirror and see the stretch marks on your belly?
Birth is a vulnerable situation, it takes everything out of you, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. There is a reward at the end that makes it all worth it, but its a journey to get there. This journey starts at conception. Well, before conception really, but that’s for another post. Let’s start with emotions, shall we?
Ladies, when we are hungry, we get emotional. When we are on our periods, emotional! So of course, when we get pregnant, BOOM, emotional. The initial shock comes, you’re going to be a Mommy! Your husband is going to be a Daddy! Emotions! Fear, worry, how are we going to feed the baby, we have to buy tons of clothes, my insurance isn’t good enough. I don’t know how to be a mom! Along the way this changes to irrational fears and worries about any little movement in your belly. Any little rise in blood pressure. oh. my. Gosh. I just got goosebumps, is my baby okay? Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating with that last one, but this really happens sometimes!
The enemy is sending thoughts that make you emotional, that try to instill fear. Some would say, oh, that’s natural. I guess in reality, it is. Where you go from there is how you’re going to stand out. Where YOU get to change the narrative.
“He will AGAIN have compassion on us; He will vanquish our iniquities. He will cast all our sins into the sea” (Micah 7:19)
The Lord’s Strength is His mercy. His heart is to have compassion on us. Is worry a sin? Anxiety? If you’re worrying, are you trusting? If you’re not trusting, who are you relying on?
“Cast all your anxieties on Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
God, is a God of Peace. You know He’s with you, and that you fully trust Him when you can take a deep breath, a deep, deep breath. I haven’t always trusted God, right now I’m in the place where I’ve trusted Him more than I have in my whole life. It’s a beautiful place to be. It’s freeing. My mom used to have this nickname for me, when I worried about any and every little thing. It was “Wimberly Worried”. That little girl was constantly worried, her jaw was always tight, her shoulders a mess when she was too young to know what stress was, she curled in on herself as she literally worried about being able to take that next breath. Being honest, because of this, her breaths were never deep. That little girl, never had peace. Peace isn’t just about knowing that you would be able to take that breath, it was trusting that the One who gave you that breath, had things under control. Peace is about letting go of your selfish desires to be in control, because who really can handle the world on their shoulders? Only the one who created it. That was my whole problem, I was trusting myself for everything, my whole life, my world at the time, was on my shoulders and it was very heavy.
Your husband, boyfriend, Doula, Midwife, even you, cannot make your birth go well. Not by themselves, you can do every single thing right, but it’s the Lord who has the final say in the end. Humans fail, as hard as we try, it is in our nature to at some point, fall short. For the Lord, this is impossible. “Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”. (Matthew 19:26) This being said, what IS in your hands is how you show up to your birth, how you’ve prepared yourself, or, not prepared yourself. The Bible talks about the ten virgins, five foolish and five wise. The wise were prepared, the foolish didn’t have what they needed.
What do you need for a successful birth? Remember, we are still on emotions. Emotionally, if you are stressed, worried, anxious, negative, angry, or fearful, your body will shut down. Like mine was, you will curl into yourself, you’ll tighten up and not be able to take a truthfully deep breath. What about those past births that have scared you, do you believe that because it happened once that it will happen again? What can you do before this birth to get yourself ready to experience all that the Lord has for you?
“Therefore the Lord is waiting to show you mercy, and is rising up to show you compassion, for the Lord is a just God. All who wait patiently for Him are happy.” (Isaiah 30:18)
The Lord wants to heal you of past traumas, He wants to show you compassion and take away your stress and anxiety. He gives you strength, by giving you mercy. He knows that as humans, we can’t do it on our own. By His stripes, we are healed. By His love the terrible memories get washed away. By His grace, He gives you the strength to forgive. With His name you have the power to move mountains. Imagine what would happen if you called on His name to silence the voices of doubt and worry, of fear and anxiety! You could waltz, okay, waddle, into that birth room without anything holding you back, with a clear mind, a light heart trusting in the Lord. Your body would be so relaxed, ready for those contractions and the deep breaths you need to get through them.
“He gives power to the faint, and to him who lacks, might He increase power.” (Isaiah 40:29)
“Let us hold on to the confession of our hope without wavering, since He who promised is faithful” Hebrews 10:23
We know this can be overwhelming. Emotions are real. The stress and worry, is real! It’s a constant battle, daily, hourly, sometimes you’ll have to take your thoughts captive by the minute. At Blessed Joy we don’t only serve you physically, we are here for you to help you deal with all of the emotions, we want to hear about all the past traumas. We believe in the power of prayer and would be happy to pray with you!
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